Not alone
March 23, 2009 | Category: I'm a Daughter
The funny thing about grief is that it pulls you close to the ones you love. For me – collective grieving feels so much better than going at it by yourself.
To be in the company of of others that understand what you’re going through (and are going through the exact same thing) has a comforting element to it. Unfortunately, sometimes misery does love company.
The past week we’ve been spending lots of time just hanging out – being present and available for each other. Comforting each other when we needed it.
Offering a warm hug or an understanding ear. Sharing meals made by friends and strangers alike. Seeing people you only see at “weddings and funerals” but love to spend time with just the same. Family and community.
We’ve cried.
We’ve reminisced and remembered.
Oh, and we’ve eaten lots of ham on buns.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart to all of you who have left comments, emails, messages on Facebook, and phone calls. I may not be able to respond to all of them, but they do not go unappreciated.
Thank you for loving my family in this way. You all are awesome, never forget that.
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Hi, I’m Emily.
March 23rd, 2009 @ 3:08 am
I think you, Michael and both your extended families are absolutely amazing. I went to a funeral on Saturday for an amazing man as well and was thinking that you guys were having that same “celebration of life” and the joy of knowing that he is now free from pain and dancing with the Lord. It really teaches you to live each moment to the fullest and not to let little things get in the way. I can tell you are raising your girls with that same passion and I think it is wonderful. Love you both and hope to see you soon!
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March 23rd, 2009 @ 3:38 am
love you em! hang in there.
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March 24th, 2009 @ 2:29 am
Haven’t left a blog comment until now. I’ve lacked the words. …Just listening to the new With One Voice album. The song Let Me Not Forget specifically. The artists sing a plea to “make my life a thank you song.” Perhaps living in such a way doesn’t just honor our Creator but humbles Papa in the majesty he’s now surrounded by for having been able to be a catalyst to such a way of living in your life. In Michael’s life. In the lives of all those that he touched. [Ah]
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March 24th, 2009 @ 12:54 pm
Thank you Emily for that tribute.
Mom
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March 24th, 2009 @ 6:37 pm
Lucky are they that have such wonderful people to commiserate and comfort them. It imagine it would be hard to suffer alone.
My hubby and I always find that when a tradegy occurs we seem to get closer. That is a lucky thing to have happen. I know it is not like that for every couple.
Still praying for you and your family.
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March 24th, 2009 @ 7:54 pm
you just hold on tight to those little ones and your family & friends. The Lord puts us together so we will feel comfort!
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March 26th, 2009 @ 4:24 pm
Praying for your comfort in this time. ((hug))
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March 28th, 2009 @ 6:29 pm
I came to browse round and saw this. I wanted to say I’m sorry you lost your wonderful FIL.
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