One week from today we go to the doctor for the “big appointment”. The one where we get a sneak peek into how our little one is doing. The appointment where 80% of expectant parents find out the gender.
We’ve always avoided checking out the “bits”. For us, beating hearts and growing limbs have been the only reason for the ultrasound. You know, the important stuff.
I absolutely cannot believe that I’ll be the mom to four children. More specifically, I cannot believe I’ll be responsible for four people. Responsibility is not one of my strong quality, this might not end well.
Over the course of the next seven days, we must make a concrete decision. We’ve been hee hawing around about it for what feels like eternity, and I need to make up my mind once and for all.
Do we find out the gender of this baby at the ultrasound or not?
It’s a yes or no question. Why is this so hard?
I’m so on the fence about it. I feel like if I find out, I’m being super naughty and potentially spoiling something really sweet. Like discovering what I’m getting for Christmas, in October. Or “doing it” before you’re actually married. You know, things that are better off if you just have a little restraint and wait it out.
PRO’s to finding out:
- We can bond with little person a little more if we know, or at least that’s what I’ve convinced myself of.
- We can decide on one name instead of two. Names are hard for us.
- Organization. Get Gage’s room more specifically ready for either a boy or girl. Get rid of either the boy or girls clothes I’ve been hanging onto and won’t now need.
- There are a few gender specific things I would like to buy. Like cloth diapers and important stuff only found on on Heartsy, Zulily or The Mini Social. Oh no way. (And oh yeah, those are affiliate links, but not because I like to shop discount or anything)
- We’ve never found out before, I want to know how it feels to know beforehand!
PRO’s to waiting:
- Not finding out is like a license to be lazy. Can’t go shopping for clothes, can’t design a gender specific nursery.
- The most amazing and euphoric feeling of hearing “it’s a boy” or “it’s a girl”. ’nuff said.
- What if you decide to find out, and the ultrasound tech is WRONG! Pretty sure if you wait, you can’t be wrong. Or right.
So I’ve created a poll. Majority rules, and we will do whatever the majority decides. How’s that for power?!
And no, I cannot be bribed after the verdict is in. My mother-in-law has already tried to bribe us into doing it her way, and I will not bend. Unless that is, if she wants to buy us a minivan. Come on, I’m not stupid or anything…