Good moms make sure their kids get enough sleep at night, and put them to bed promptly at 7:30pm. NO. This mom puts them to bed promptly at 7:30pm because she’s tired of parenting and has had enough.
Good moms hope that the baby doesn’t get up in the middle of the night, because that means that the baby is growing. NO. This mom is just plain tired of getting up in the middle of the night and would rather sleep than deal with a baby at 3:38am.
Good moms want their babies to take long naps, because naps are healthy, and naps help babies be happy little well rested creatures. NO. This mom hopes her baby will take long naps, because that means she can catch up on laundry, prep for dinner, or vacuum the carpets without the guilt of not holding her baby when he’s awake.
Good moms take their kids to the park because kids love the park and it’s a fun place for kids to hang out. NO. This mom goes to the park so her kids will run and play without asking for a snack every thirty seconds. She goes to the park in hopes that one of her friends will be at the park, and she can get some adult interaction. This mom goes to the park so her kids will run out their energy and go to bed without complaining.
Good moms get up before their kids wake in the morning. She’s showered, dressed, and breakfast is on the table before 7am. NO. This mom has to be woken up by her husband, 20 minutes before school drop-off happens.
Good moms do not drink caffeine throughout the day to stay awake and certainly do not use a glass of wine at night to wind down. NO. This mom always drinks caffeine during the day, and frequently drinks a glass of wine after dinner.
Good moms set up play dates for their kids, because kids love play date, and social interaction is healthy for children. NO. This mom schedules play dates because it means her kids will be entertained and leave her alone for a few hours.
Good moms make sure their kids have plenty of books to read, because reading is learning and learning is good. NO. This mom makes sure her kids have plenty of books to read, because books are a nice quite activity. This mom goes crazy at the noise level in her house and oftentimes locks herself in the bedroom to escape the chaos after dinner is done.
Good moms let their kids make their own lunches, because it teaches independence and kids love to make their own choices. NO. This mom lets her kids make their own lunches because she’s oftentimes too tired to fight with her kids about their food choices.
Good moms enroll their kids in year round school because it provides structure, routine, and cultivates learning. NO. This mom enrolls her kids in year round school because she has two little boys at home and she can’t imagine having all four of them home for 9 weeks straight through the summer.
Good moms take their kids to the zoo/children’s museum/bouncy house place because it’s a fun activity the kids will love. NO. This mom takes her kids places like that because it will eat up a chunk of the day, and get them out of the house for a few hours.
Good moms give selflessly all day long to their children. They never wish for downtime away from their kids, and love being with them every single second of the day. Good moms never have ulterior motives for the things they do with their children. The children of Good moms never act out in public, are never rude to adults, and are always well behaved. Good moms are always happy, never overwhelmed, have houses that are cleaned and organized, and children that are also cleaned and organized.
Everyone you know is a Good mom, except for you. You do a lot of things Good moms do, except you do them for the wrong reason, which means you suck at being a mom.
(This was my inner monolog last night while I was trying to fall asleep. I’m just writing it down, not that I want to remember any of it.)
And I know, this Good mom doesn’t exist. Except sometimes I think she does. And I know, I don’t totally suck at being a mom, except sometimes I think I do.
I’m in a “head above water” situation right now when it comes to being a mom. When I’m with my kids, which is all the time, I keep my thoughts to myself and a smile (mostly) on my face. I pray often, that my intentions will shift, and that someday in my mind, I’ll be a good enough mom.